Life is watched out for: It may be _'s psychological general knowledge of a kind of disease too to be boring

Life is watched out for: It may be _'s psychological general knowledge of a kind of disease too to be boring
Long holidays for each time are over, it can be slow and too supernatural that working clan always take two or three days, at this time, the boring feeling that do not often want to do things either. Who is when being not boring? If is only so not bad, but because boring while always doing some baffled things, can't be careless. Prove so for a long time, you, oneself, relation with friend, are running off.
Do not know whether everybody still remembers two pieces of news for the previous period, first comes from Japan, say because a man is boring, move bombs to launch to the imperial palace, is caught right away; Another one the intersection of Chinese and man, because boring to play 100 much times of 110 continuously, the end, also been got hold of. Two news these, seem, make laughs, but boring to really can let people make some inconceivable, thing that oneself can't explain even sometimes.
The boring signal 1: Lack the relation
In our life, have three kinds of important relations: Oneself and one's own relation, oneself and others' relation, oneself and natural relation. If any kind of relation among them has been lacked, will let people feel that there is not whereabouts in the heart. With lose, get in touch naturally, may everybody most easy to see, where 's afforestation be little, there are few trees, all feel uncomfortable in the heart. And other two kinds of relations, it is silent to run off, but while feeling, will be very hollow.
"How could you treating alone? I am not all right. " Sasa is a very optimistic girl, but she is afraid of a person at home, even see the film, surf the Net, also will be hit by the sudden hollow sense, once also cry at home unexpectedly. Thinking about it again, she says again, " does not know why, the relation with friend now, begin to make me disturbing too. "
Because and the friend is at odds, everybody's relation has become estranged, Sasa does not know that speak to nobody, then her extra-professional activities is: Go to do shopping. When the more boring feel, it is the more frequently to do shopping, and many persons use this kind to " tackle a problem on the surface, not at the root " Method resist boring,but after finishing buying, is it hollow to feel still.
Boring signal 2: Lack sense of safety
"One can treat. " Hu Shen's saying. Chen Yinke once described the large theory of Zhongshan, the thinker very suitable to be lonely here, while treating alone at ordinary times, in fact everybody is " lonely thinker " ,Only this is lonely, it is not everybody that can stand. And and one's own relation close, resistant to lonely, if burst out in the brain at leisure " whether I know what oneself want " , " what now make me glad? " , " know oneself want what does it make " ,Such an idea, really let people not have sense of safety deeply.
Because boring to do, bomb imperial palace, play 110 extreme thing so, seem inconceivable, it is in fact a mood obstacle, it is unable to control the sense of fear produced because of lacking sense of safety, if someone pays close attention to oneself, the sense of fear will be reduced. "Bomb the imperial palace, how many people do you think about pay close attention to him? " Hu Shen's saying.
Certainly, the thing that we can not go against accepted conventions in this way causes others' attention most of the time, but boring have palpitation, the everything stress feeling constantly, most people can realize. It is not merely a moment making the person agitated, it is one kind that comes from one's own warning even more: Go to establish the relation with oneself, and others.
But this kind of warning is usually not apt to notice, a lot of people think: I will look for one kind of things to satisfy oneself at once.
"Go to do shopping, phone, stroll around arbitrarily everywhere on the net purposelessly if having time, not so good as inviting the friend to have a chat. " Guangzhou sunflower psychological referral centre consults teacher Hu Shen's suggestion, like Sasa, know where it is problematic, restrain impulse that go shopping then. "Has just begun to be uncomfortable, but the relation is lacked not so terrible either, so long as you are willing to change the past to deal with the boring habit, mend the relation back. "

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