The monologue does not have a few time of cold _'s love in winter of the wedding clan city

The monologue does not have a few time of cold _'s love in winter of the wedding clan city

People find in recent years, more and more city women in marriageable age have not stridden into this threshold of the marriage even after stalling for a long time, Israel also under the people " White collar " In the majority. Increase day by day " No the wedding " It assume the air of already phenomenon it become lines of city scenery,it prevail each on the whole
Popular common fault of the country.
Increasingly many Chinese women begin to become " No the wedding clan " No there are more and more wedding women, the single woman that even real estate developers have initiated unwilling marriage of wealth of the bachelor apartment has one's own special reasons and secrets.
A copy of data of census shows, the single crowd in China is huge day by day: The single family of China was 1,740,000 in 1982, more than 8 million people were not married by 1690; Around 1690, the single men and women in Beijing are above 200,000, but this figure of Nanjing is up to 400,000 alone now, two places in Beijing and Shanghai have already broken through the large amount of a million. There are evolution data about the Shanghai Stock Market marriage of research center of information of a group of population in Shanghai besides: The number of people getting married was 180,000 pairs in 1980; It was 120,000 pairs in 1690; It was 100,000 pairs in 1697. Need to prove, such data appear under the increasingly large situation of the population of marriageable age, and the single woman's proportion has the tendency to obviously rise among them.
The sociology expert points out, these decreasing trends prove from a certain side, even marry at a mature age " no the wedding " Become one general phenomenon, already no longer " marry and give birth to babies " a lot of women already in China Regard as the obligatory course in life.
Analyzing the reason which presents this kind of phenomenon, someone is regarded as the product of social progress. Keen competition makes women's consciousness of improving oneself independently strengthen day by day, have a great part " white collar " Women needn't already rely on the man on the material, have obtained over male success yet in career. They or one famous brand, wear light clothes to be fresh, have one's own company, house, car, or have one's mind filled with knowledge, the style of conversation is graceful, but only come from care of the intimate lover few. They think of the love, but can not love.
Calculate according to the sociologist, a 30 -year-old woman graduate student, if choose spouse according to the traditional standard, it choose surface only 0.2%, according to " three care " (age, education, wedding and funeral arrangements divorces and does not care) Choose spouse, choose the surface to expand to 18%. But the problem lies in, even if women do not care, make the tendency and make most men difficult to accept in man's strong woman's weak habit.
Wang Fan engaged in popularizing the work one trans-corporation says: "After 30 last years olds, someone always asked that why I did not get married to get up. I tell them a joke. That said is that a couple are friendly at the first meeting in the bar, discuss it is very joyous, but the man learnt the woman was after graduation from Harvard, but turn round to walk after saying sentence ' very glad to meet you ' courteously. "
Reality is too just like this, in the questionnaire investigation of a website, 72% of the men say oneself is unwilling to be higher than one's own a lot of women and get married with ability. Certainly, women " no the wedding " Reason still numerous, for example it is difficult to have an opportunity to get to know the different charges in nature in the ideal, it is unwilling to be fettered by the marriage not to think of the development opportunity that get married and lose in career, yearn for graceful and free single life.
Say, it has to be incomplete a life in life in marriage, then until " no the clan " Appearance getting more opposite just,raise marry too early women by tide until low age city some now, though team that marry too early strengthen, give session again undoubtedly single white collar woman of marriageable age lead to the fact big impact on pass already. Someone says, " no the wedding " It is a kind of life attitude, someone says too, " no the wedding " Just a kind of course.
Why do not they get married?
The marriage is undoubtedly an important last course of a feast in life. But nowadays, the flavour in people's mind of this course is more and more beyond expression. A lot of women would rather even bear the censure of the society, its taste of giving up having a trial test too. For what is this on earth? Several " no the wedding clan " Provide one's own explanations with the sociologist.
The woman should set up one's own business first too, and then get married
Miss Liu becomes a project executive in the cosmetics company of a famous brand. The 26 -year-old achievement which she makes to oneself in career is cherished very much. Miss Liu thinks, develop the undertaking first and then discuss the emotion is modern wisest choices of women. She thinks, women relatively obtain male respect more easily when the different fields of economic situation stabilizes, set up family, find an equalization point easily too. The wedding gauze kerchief is each woman's dream, but who says that can't shine the photograph of wedding gauze kerchief without getting married?
Miss Liu says: "I agree this kind despise one's own view of ability. If a young girl just holding up one's head 20 years old has nothing, wants to look for a good home for oneself as soon as possible according to being young and beautiful, even if can realize, may not necessarily be for a long time either because young. And the time and energy that can take up you to grow up, study in marriage life. One cannot say for sure you will not regret then. "
The sound outside: Love and undertaking contradictory actually,either which piece be might not if you can't want, abide by first which piece after. As to modern city women, it had better be while letting nature take its course, will debate the order of importance and emergency of undertaking love in different period tomorrow, will make the choice most suitable to be one's own after the reasonable thinking intelligently, in order to obtain great equilibrium the most.
Persons who keep watch of idealism
One that is with others " No the wedding clan " On the contrary, love and family that Nana wishes eagerly very much in the heart of hearts. However, she already unwilling " game life " ,Also unwilling " Not so bad day " .
Nana says: "In the course of waiting for the lover in the ideal to come, I have already been used to a personal life. It is not excessive that it would rather be scarce that my principle is ' ', but when I run into my ' he ', it is sure to seek a result. "
Nana such women do not know whether should be praised by us. Working hard in realistic material era, someone says even love turned into and ate the fast food rapidly, love and marriage not only can be weighed with money, quality also drops greatly, then a lot of pragmatists appear. Under the surrounding of these people of theirs, Nana is willing to wait patiently, seek the true love conscientiously, not even after stalling for a long time outside the door of the marriage for the ideal, it is rare to be really regarded as.
The sound outside: Nana's marriage view demonstrates city women's characterized calm in the miscellaneous society. In terms of this, the intersection of women and pure love than man, bear, live in lonely even more. However, the such one will be kept watch and will set up in having healthy, correct standard of choosing spouse, can't aim too high, impractical. While can't permit at all rash marriage attituding, will understand: The marriage is both interests and the burden to both sides.
The baffled fear makes her far away from Xiao Zhou has already talked for seven years and fallen in love to the boyfriend, but not thought of the thought of marriage. She says: "The marriage is a threshold very difficult to take to me. As the woman, what I paid attention to most is love, if lose love because of getting married, I prefer not to need the wife's famous share. "
Say there are many men afraid of marriage. In fact, a lot of women have this kind of psychology too. Because the marriage, this kind of thing, is for woman, once can't go back on one's word when entering. Many white collar women are unwilling to get married, is the strenuous housework fearing those marriages bring, gives birth to and brings up the obligation of the child, responsibility of the treatment husband and old man, some can't afraid of the emotion after marriage for a long time, bring the injury to oneself, some worry to one's own or the other side some it gets married to be can happy in a word when being unripe to fear emotion while being excessive while being perfect enough, women are more and more common when lacking the phenomenon of confidence to the marriage, all claim to have " marriage neurosis " oneself .
The sound outside: The marriage it seems to be the second reincarnation to women, really need treating with cautions. But the put off easily by a slight risk idea is inadvisable, women that will only escape will not get the real happiness, the more important thing is to learn what management to live after marriage, face various questions that may appear bravely, find the best solution with spouse. Meanwhile, women want to believe, the feeling that everybody puts into after the marriage will be different, the unfortunate marriage that others said will take place on you. Gamble how know sure to be been failed? If really fail on " Where where to fall " ,You will become strong and ripe at least.
" no the wedding clan " This winter of the Wei one
The intersection of A and Wei of director a good friend for many years of reporter in make program by some TV station. 27 -year-old she keep forging ahead actively in career, has no time to take the marriage into account so far. Act as someone returns to Wei " The single noble " Circle in when,it smile to shake the head always she,then it is say not to correct by others: "I am one ' no wedding clan '. "
A Wei think " single noble " Sum " no the wedding clan " It is discriminating. " single noble " Only show a kind of identity without spouse, and " no the wedding clan " Have indicated not to need the spouse's attitude. A " single noble " Can enter at any time " Encircle a city " To, and " no the wedding clan " But the majority will carry celibacy through to the end firmly.
Listen to the intersection of A and story of Wei, the reporter says: "Even if the life drifting alone is wonderful, but people are animals of the society after all. If the marriage is not that one kind is favorable to individuals and life form of the society, why was not it eliminated for thousands of years? Freedom, I'm afraid do not equate with happily. " A Wei consider for a moment, place nod gently. "So choose, do, want ' the intersection of wedding ' and perfectly willing and harmless other people. " A Wei says, invests sight in outside the window. Under the sunshine of winter, a pair of lovers flash.



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