Why does the man fear the marriage even more than the woman?

Why does the man fear the marriage even more than the woman?
The time that people of today get married is later, the phenomenon of late marriage and childbirth seem more outstanding, reach the respects of men and women specifically, the investigation reveals, the men are more willing to get married a little later, why?Recent finding, in the young men and women already engaged, the wife wishes eagerly to step into the palace of the marriage early even more than the husband, and the man always produced the fear of difficulty when near soon wedding day.
Last year, at the psychological association annual meeting of the whole America held in Atlanta of U.S.A., come from inferior Di in New York and is not pointed out by researcher Ashley and Novack of the university, compared with their fiance, the wife's expected value to the marriage is higher, and hope both sides can share a close relationship, but this is often a wishful idea.
Novack, colleague and their the intersection of psychologist and the intersection of Janney and the intersection of Sri Lankan and Dr. and end the intersection of profit and full of trees Newman, young to allow Mr. and Mrs. to go on the online anonymous investigation to a well educated one to 50 Dr. have, and keep secret strictly among them. As requested, interviewee want, answer the intersection of oneself and think and intensity intimate of companion at present not merely, must answer to the expected value of the intimate intensity after marriage. The result reveals, no matter according to sexual relations, interpersonal relationships or other respects, interviewed women appraising and is far higher than being interviewed men to their existing intimate intensity. Moreover, compared with fiance, the brides are more optimistic about the marriage life of the future that allow.
While giving an interview, Novack says, the difference which men and women estimate to the intimate intensity of relation of both sides, it is a quite awkward question that solves. A kind of explanation is, women like not stating one's own emotion in childhood or adolescence and contacts of the same sex keeping even more, not usually covering up one's own fragile side either, they think that it can obtain enough trust and sense of safety even more to share the mutual secret.
The researcher says, when pursuing love, the man is often as indomitable as holy fighter, but when the love will yield positive results soon, but always afraid to advance. Its reason mainly lies in: First, men were warned to want the independence while as a child, wanted the friendship between gentleman appears indifferent but is pure like watered, they are unwilling to expose the fragile side in the personality to others, even persons very on intimate terms, so they have a kind of special frightened and instinctive resisting to marriage and intimate relation. Secondly, a lot of men over-evaluate the constraint of the marriage, is afraid that loses one's own independent space after marriage. Even a lot of lovers have already been at the stage of the fact marriage in fact, the man still will think that once there is restraint of a wedding book, will make oneself have to give up a lot for this responsibility freely. Third, some men, to the burden overestimate of the marriage, they think the responsibility in the marriage will make oneself have to increase too many burdens for improvement of life quality. In addition, it is one of the reasons that the requirements for sex companion's feeling of freshness are higher.The editor recommends:How does the man obtain the sweet-smelling heart
Novack also says, the previous investigation finds, the same sex confidente married women and married male proportion are 64% and 11% respectively, it means, find intimate woman of sense incline to compensate this and cut the drop wholeheartedly by seeking same sex partner even more enough in marriage. So, if couple have cold relation day by day, it is stronger comparatively speaking that women adjust right ability oneself, men may be particularly very injured, this is a reason why a man does not have an optimistic view of the marriage very much too.
However, the experts point out, the advantage of the marriage lies in, when you meet difficulty in life, can become one's own strong backing, it will be that you think that lack the lovers that passion is even fed up about a bit at ordinary times forever. This is why the mankind has this form of the marriage too, and been encouraging cherishing the marriage and reason of the praise marriage all the time.The editor recommends:The woman is ten kinds of disagreeable men
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