Praise the other side and improve your _'s interpersonal psychology of communication glamour sincerely

Praise the other side and improve your _'s interpersonal psychology of communication glamour sincerely
All of us know everybody likes listening to the good word, if you praise for the other side can increase your interpersonal relationships. Certainly, praising for here means that explore the light spot of the other side, but not " flatter " . It will make others happy to praise others, the benign repayment of the person praised will make ourselves' psychology feel happy too, thus form the benign cycle of the interpersonal relationships.



It is the human natural instincts to listen to the words praised in love, the sex is amazing that everybody likes, it is amazing not to like the shouldering.
If everybody is glad to appreciate others in the human communication, good at praising others' strong point, then, person-to-person happiness degree will increase greatly.
Have one psychologist while lining up to withdraw the money in banks, see preceding one old gentleman have one's face covered with distress, this psychologist ponders upon, I want to make him getting optimistic. Then he looked for the old gentleman's advantage while lining up, he saw at last, the old gentleman although the hunchback bends one's back, have a beautiful hair, then when this old gentleman finishes the thing to go to the psychologist, the psychologist praises sincerely: ldquo; Sir, your hair is very beautiful! rdquo; The old gentleman is always proud of a beautiful hair, hear the praise of the psychologist is very glad, the face is getting optimistic immediately, the waist very much, has expressed one's gratitude, gone away moaning the song. It is obvious, a simple praise has brought the great advantage to others.
Meet one collegegirl in one psychological consultation, she because of interpersonal relationships nervous worried in the dormitory. The classmates do not come and go each other, is busy with one's own thing respectively, seem to all have vigilance each other in the dormitory, it is very difficult to be intimate talks, the atmosphere of the dormitory is oppressive, she hopes to change this kind of state, but does not know to take action from He.
I tell her: Since present, try to praise others, appreciate others' strong point wholeheartedly, for instance: ldquo; You have a rosy complexion today! rdquo; ldquo; Your eyes are very bright! rdquo; ldquo; This skirt can not be suitable for you again! rdquo; Wait a moment. In the near future, she will come to tell me, the atmosphere of the dormitory totally changes, everybody helps each other, care each other, talk and laugh when together, would like to go back to the dormitory after class, it seems that there is a kind of invisible attractiveness in the dormitory.
Good at appreciating others' regular meeting makes a leader have magical strength. If you say to the subordinate: ldquo; As everybody knows, you are very competent. Unit manpower has been tense recently, we hope to get your help in something. rdquo; In this case, your subordinate is sure to share somebody's cares and burdens for you, there is not any complaint even if a person do two people's work.
In the family life, it is especially important to learn praise. People's often pre-marital honeyed words, criticism is complained about after marriage, thought the safe substantially as entering the love of marriage, no need to rack one's brains and please, praise the other side, no wonder there is ldquo; The marriage is grave rdquo of the love; Statement. In fact, the wife needs appreciating, the husband thirsts for the wife's encouragement even more of the husband even more after marriage, criticism is nitpicked not only it would not help matters, will run counter to desire instead.
A story is called ldquo; Elder sister Wang trains the and writes rdquo; . Elder sister Wang's is lazy on ordinary days, has never managed housework, no matter how elder sister Wang is to criticize the fine long hair inefficiency garrulously, seek advice to the psychologist having no choice. After receiving the psychologist's instruction, elder sister Wang acts out of character, does not complain garrulously, instead of observing and looking for the good behavior that the husband shows once in a while sedulously.
On the somth, its washed bowl used by oneself once unintentionally, then elder sister Wang appreciates greatly, and promise to do several dishes of good dishes to encourage, its rather benefits from in the heart. Again, its has washed one's own socks conveniently unintentionally, elder sister Wang will follow the set pattern at once, make an issue. Gradually, its feels the family rather makes warm, looks for housework voluntarily once going home, and find pleasure in it gradually.
In children's growth, encourage and praise more indispensably. ldquo; Being very obedient, Xiaobao gives the apple to the younger brother rdquo quickly; ,etc. favorable to child socialization. ldquo; The son is excellent, my father is proud of you. rdquo; ldquo; Mother believes you have the ability to handle the contradiction with classmates well. rdquo; These are very important to training children's self-confidence and self-reliance ability.
It will make others happy to praise others, the benign repayment of the person praised will make ourselves feel happy too, thus form the benign cycle of the interpersonal relationships.
Certainly, praise others for not meaning it can be free from all inhibitions, two following principles should pay attention to: First, sincere. Praise others take out of wholehearted, contents praised are fine quality and characteristic that the other side will really have or have soon, don't let others feel you speak from the purpose, want to get something.
Such as praising one for wearing the short and small one big and tallly and probably presenting ldquo; Flatter and strike rdquo at the hoof; Situation. Second, the content praised should be taken notice of by the other side. Praise middle aged women for having a slender figure, it is hale and hearty and very apt to cause the good response to praise the old human body, praise children to be young hard tooth have very much difficult to have positive results by young peopling.
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